Unless you have been there and done that, skip it.
I find it too hurtful to share with someone and take the risk of exposing myself to have them say: "Just get over it." "Stop living in the past." These remarks are from my family. Some of the reason they respond this way is to avoid taking responsibility for having not protecting me as a child. They feel guilty so they throw it back at me.
At first it really hurt me (for over a year) until I could understand that they couldn't begin to comprehend the complexity of my illness. I felt bad that they were not even willing to try to understand or be sensitive to my needs. Heaven forbid you rain on their parade.
These remarks are the most common. People with out PTSD just don't get it. They can't fathom the depth of the pain and suffering we experience regularly in our daily survival. We all wish we could stop it like they wish we could. We cannot control it.
The comments I really get angry about are: "I've got a little PTSD from that fight in the hallway I tried to break up" or "from the break up of my relationship". It just kills me when people identify PTSD with regards to a minor bump in the road compared to our pasts. |