Siara,

It sounds like you're going thru a situation that is rather similar to mine.

I can only relate too well in how in-between you feel. You know he'll come back around, but you also know that you deserve more than that. And, that's exactly what I'd tell him. Tell him that you simply cannot live your life in this in-between place. You want to be there for him, as long as he actively tries to remain in this relationship. But, at this point, he isn't even trying. And you need to establish some kind of balance in your life. He is tossing you all around emotionally, and that is NOT fair to you.

Two days ago, I sent mine a letter telling him to go to therapy and to learn to like himself. I told him that it is not until he does these things that he can have a proper relationship. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but I would suggest that you communicate with him boundaries. Because, the thing is, your BF is ill. He needs help more than he needs a relationship right now. And, I'm sure he probably knows that. Which is why he's pulled away.

Best of luck to you, Saira. And, please feel free to send me an email, if you need someone to talk to.

Lindsay