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Originally Posted by Sairadance  Life goes on and it hurts so much....to think that we never got the chance to see where it could have gone. He is a wonderful man, just not emotionally available. I don't want to give up on him, but I know I need more. Guess I have to tell him. I know where that will end up? Or should I just wait for him to "Un-thaw??) |
Saira, a relationship should not cause you this much hurt 4 months in. If someone is wonderful but not available, your focus needs to be on the 'not available' as you cannot have wonderful with that. You say you don't want to give up on him yet he has already given up on you as he is not available yet wants you to be the one that keeps contact happening...doesn't sound like he wants to be with you if you ask me.
I am sorry if my comments cause you pain but you deserve to be happy and you needn't put your life on hold for some man who is not available. Put yourself out there and you may be surprised as there is definitely more than one wonderful man.
If you decide to wait instead, I think you then need to put a reasonable time frame on it and stick to it. You don't want to end up looking back on your life realising you have wasted all your time on a hope that someone may "un-thaw". The only thing you have for sure is the 'now' and it is good to have dreams and goals but wanting something to change which you can't control is a very different thing.