May I ask why your husband is staying with his mom Deanna? You must be feeling terribly alone during such a sad time. How are you? I have suffered the loss of a pregnancy and my partner took off at the same time, after bringing me home from hospital, and went and stayed with his mother for the week. It was one of the cruelest things he could have done to me at the time as I needed support and he just checked out.

As for your question, counselling is only good if all parties are willing and accepting. Forcing someone to go somewhere they don't want to go generally never has a good outcome.