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Originally Posted by purdyamos I keep trying to come on this website to try to find comfort, but over and over again I'm just slapped in the face by people referring to people who love them that are just there, and I have never ever had anybody who is just there, and I'm sick of being expected to cope in comparison to people who just have people there and who have had the experience of love. |
Purdy, who are you angry at? Me??? The world? Yourself? Am I going to create an area for people who have had nobody in their lives? No. Why? Because the board is not about loneliness, love, relationships or any other personal relationship and livelihood problems, the forum is about PTSD, and PTSD only. You have nobody as you state, others have family, children, etc etc. Why doesn't everybody have the right to talk about their family, their children, just as you do about being lonely? All I am seeing at the moment from you is frustration, which you are directing at the very people who want to help you and support you. What honestly gives? Do you think your now being a bit selfish? Your basically saying that people should not talk about their lives, the very lives that encompass their PTSD. If this is the case, you should not talk about your loneliness, the loneliness that encompasses your PTSD. Lets not be discriminatory please, lets keep with the facts of the forum, PTSD support for sufferers, spouses and family surrounding PTSD.
This board covers relationships, which is very much an affected part within a sufferers life. Relationships mean, none, spouse, family, friends, etc etc. So you are already covered here... and to be honest, your directing your frustration and anger towards people who only want to help you. Honestly, your pissing up the wrong tree if you ask me.
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Originally Posted by purdyamos If you have NEVER experienced love, you CANNOT undrestand the ABSOLUTE isolation and social faschism that total victims have had to deal with. |
Absolutely agree. If you haven't experienced being stabbed, shot, beaten, verbally abused, cancer, etc etc etc, you CANNOT understand in totality. I am not disagreeing with you, but you can be frustrated about it, or you can fix it, heal yourself and find love for yourself. You are being your worst enemy at the moment to be honest, not anybody here Purdy.
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Originally Posted by purdyamos This site just makes me sicker and sicker, because it seems orientated to people who already have love in their life, and people to look after them, as if that is normal. And the rest of us can just fester. |
Again, this site is about PTSD and the lives surrounding PTSD. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't try and make it something it is not.
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Originally Posted by purdyamos I have earned the right to have people to love me. I have ****ing earned it. I've earned the right to have family members just handed to me on a plate who care about me. Most people do nothing whatsoever to earn it. |
Cannot disagree with you, and to be honest, every human being deserves to be loved, and has nothing to do with earning anything. Love cannot be earnt, it is given, it is taken, it is deserved, but certainly not earnt. Children deserve to be loved by their parents, they do not have to earn it. I don't disagree with you about the bad parents, and honestly I am all for making people be licensed to have children, just as you must to drive a car on the road with other people. Lets look at it; we get licensed to drive so we know a set off rules, and if all people obide by those rules, the chances of being hurt or killed by another on the road is slim. When a person throws those rules out the door, bad things happen. Some people are just not meant to be parents, and should need to go through a procedure to ensure they are mentally sound to cope, raise and provide the love that children need towards them, and not the current crap that occurs, the very crap you are now dealing with yourself.
But I really disagree with your statement,
"Most people do nothing whatsoever to earn it", because love should not be earnt, it is given or deserved, but certainly not earnt. Everybody deserves love, unfortunately not everybody gets it, or will accept it!
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Originally Posted by purdyamos I will never feel normal as long as people insists that being loved is normal. |
Who says love has to do with normalicy here? What is normal? Who the hell says a person without PTSD is normal? How many people here have been abused by people who are classed as normal? Lots... so what exactly is normal? If your within a group of people, and you do as the group peer pressure demands, that could make you normal within that group, however; another group who have different views standing beside your group would then look in and say they are normal, and the other group is not. So, which group is normal? Neither... because normal is what you as an individual perceive it to be. If you believe normal is a house with white fence, spouse and two children, then that is normal too you, but too another, normal is no spouse, no kids and an apartment in the city close to pubs and clubs for nightly entertainment. You look at them and say abnormal, they look at you and say abnormal, but in fact your both normal as you perceive normal to be.