I've been in CBT with a trauma therapist who does EMDR for two years now. For the first year, she mostly helped me with the day to day, dealing with work, keeping me functional. Then my boss was abusive, she congratulated me on getting out of a bad situation.

First session I saw her, she wanted me in a trauma hospital. Couldn't afford it, so I decided to tough it out with her.

Second and third, we went over my 'life events'. I've always been pretty non-chalant when talking about the things I remember, like it didn't affect me.

Only one EMDR session in two years, had to get on meds, get stabilized, get work straightened out, get the 'man' out of my house, etc. Learn just basically how to take care of myself around people so I wouldn't get traumatzed yet again.

Now, I'm on meds, fairly stable, 'happy?'.....we have to start doing the EMDR now. I'm terrified.

But I trust her completely, she's been through it.

I think it's a decision you and your T need to make together. Definately having your ducks in a row in your life prior to working with the memories is a must, I think. No sense adding more to an already awful thing you have to face.
Good luck, and if you develop a bond, then let them guide you. If not, find another therapist soon.
Don't give up on you.....that's all I can say.