Anthony,
I feel for you. Game playing does in the end affect the children. Hopefully, "the you won't see your kids doesn't come out to play". It takes much time and money to fight this battle in court. Money that could have been spent on the child wheather it be fun things to do, toys to play with or clothes to wear. My step-son developed nervous tics from the game playing. my ex did not want to pay child support and knew I loved his son. So we fought years of custody battles and finally won. Within the next year my ex was sleeping around, not coming home and thinking I have our daughter to raise and now his son.

I decided to play "She Devil" (a movie) that I saw. Everytime, I needed to go somewhere I would call his girlfriend or him up and tell them they had to come home to watch the kids. Of course, they acted up due to their family breaking up. I told the girlfriend that my husband comes with a package deal. You want him you have responsibilites of the children as well. Needless to say, she didn't last long. It interferred with her bar time.

I enjoyed Jets first comment to you, I thought it was a mature observation. I enjoyed DLJWhitewolf's first comment it was a good setup to find out. If the marrage is not working out it is only right for the unhappy mate to be honest without sneaking around making sure the relationship might work out before they tell you "by the way, I want a divorce". We have every right to know what's going on so we can set or minds to the changes we need to make. It is not fair to not allow the other to know it's over and be able to have time for deciding what way their future is going to take them instead of being the last to know. Not saying Anthony that was in your case. I didn't work before so had to figure out how I was going to support my daughter and get a decent place to live. His girlfriend when I was moving out was already moving her things in. When I came back to get more items she had the nerve to tell me to knock first. I told her until I remove all my items it is still my house.

I wish you well and your kids emotional health.

sunnydaze