When I first read this ongoing debate I was a little disturbed at the tone of judgement in the discussion. Then I thought, Anthony is a big boy, he can handle it. (I'm very sensitive or empathetic - I belong on Star Treck).

Anyway, I totally agree with Nic, I kept asking my therapist about the "cure". I felt it was taking forever. I felt like a jerk or slow learner. I didn't get why it wasn't going away or getting better. I didn't feel I ever got an answer to my question.

Last week-end I went on an annual retreat for women who survived childhood sexual abuse. I am always ambivilent in going because it drags up old sh..! But it is very supportive because of the validation and not feeling alone in my misery. We are all on the same path of healing just in different places. But, I got my question answered and lost it since then. I was told there is no cure. Last Sunday upon my return I was so disturbed I even became suicidal again.

I talked to my therapist at my weekly Monday appointment about my discouragement and what it did to me. It has taken me all week to come back in synch and recognize the milestones I have made and the reduction of symptoms due to my healing.

As Nic said, having a false belief can do more harm than good. If you know something is longterm you can adjust your sails and adapt. But to believe your going to be able to get fixed and then have it taken away is destructive.