Ooops, forgot about the talking part - I hate talking about my nightmares because it is like reliving the events. You can't express the physiologic changes that occur or the emotional dynamics. It is so extreme. My heart is racing just typing this.

Leave the discussion to the therapist. Talking it out sometimes helps, or writing about it sometimes. But honestly, I like to just place it aside if I can, kind of like just enduring the dentist because it is part of getting fixed.

One other thing, with some of my nightmares, the feelings can hang on through the next day. If your spouse becomes moody after a bad night, don't be alarmed, just keep him busy doing little stuff.