One other comment he made that I forgot to add....he said that when he broke up with me at the end of January it was because he had an epiphany that told him that he was not good enough for me and that I deserved better. He said that he never had an epiphany before. He said he and his first wife just hated each other after a while (they got married after dating a couple of months~mostly long distance) and his 2nd wife was a just bitch (they knew each other for about 1 year before marrying but only went out together 10-12 times ~mostly phone dating). Both marriages occurred while he was on active duty....being deployed a lot. He was an officer of a spec ops team for the army that organized disaster mgmt.

I was actuallly the person he dated the longest without marrying and we were together for 8 months. He is 42 years old. I do not want to get married anytime soon as I was married once. We were fine dating, but he decided that I would make someone a good wife and that he was nothing but a liar and no good. I guess he needs to hit rock bottom and get the help he needs. I do have to say, that he does get help through the VA. I think that he could get better help than he does. He sees a counselor 4 times a year and takes medication. He was in an anger mgmt support group, but quit. He says he is going to join another one. He does not trust civilian docs. Only the VA.

Any advice?? The heart wants what the heart wants. I wish all of this stuff came out sooner...before I was so in love with him. It is hard for me to walk away from him when he is like this.

Sisu