YEARS ago a therapist spent the whole counseling session reprimanding me because my skirt was too short. It was by no means a mini-skirt and so what if it was? The worst part was it happened in group therapy and I was very embarrassed and started to cry. She still did not stop. I left the group.

There are a lot of whacko therapists out there and I seem to find them all. So far the only person I have really been able to confide in is a spiritual director. I never "talk" to him about any incident but when I get really stressed out I will email him. He has a Masters in counseling and he is never judgmental, always kind. Sometimes he reponds with good advice, but most often he just sends me his blessings. I tell him bits and pieces and he never reprimands me or pressures me to tell more. When I see him in person he never brings it up and he treats me like a close friend. I have grown to love him.

But when I go to a therapist I do not expect spiritual and God-talk anymore than I expect my spiritual director to write me a prescription.

By the way, he has also said my therapist's counsel was inappropriate and that I should seek out a different therapist.