I think trust has a lot to do with it as well. A few years ago my T and I were discussing my desire to have children, and she asked me why I feel the need to do so. It was tough to find the right words/feelings for a response, and I asked her, "Well, do you have children?" Now I had been seeing her for over a year at that point, she answered with a very cold, "I do not share any personal information with patients." I know that Ts aren't supposed to share their personal information, etc. with us, but I felt like I wasn't asking for any kind of details and my question did pertain to what we were talking about. Now if she can't even tell me if she is a mother or not, how does she expect me to share with her every detail about horrific personal traumas that happened to me?

The other thing that I think inhibits discussing everything is the pain and the shame that it causes. When I just think about the trauma, let alone talk about it, I feel like a knife is imbeded into my heart, and with each question I'm asked, that knife is slowly twisted.