I can only speak for myself in answering the main theme of this question.

I guess for a long time I have worn a mask or hid behind the facade of a particular persona. I did not do this knowingly or with an alteria motive it came from a subconscious level. I was lost to myself!

I thought that to be accepted and to accept myself I had to present the positive attributes of who I am in life. Being, happy, strong, successful and assertive. I shunned all the other stuff that was under the surface, the self loathing, depression, feeling like a failure, blah blah. This is where I lived in 'denial', denial about my past, who I was and how I really felt.

As I move further forwards through the journey of healing I learn more and more and with this learninig I try my best to embrace who I am and offer myself acceptance. Not so easy but I try!

I guess I feel this links in with the question, people not being honest with their T's, comes down to the fact that although living this life is/was a lie, it was who I became. In order to be honest with a T I firstly had to begin unwrapping all of these layers so that I could indeed even highlight how I felt. Soemtimes, I still forget that I don't have to be strong 'spirit' I am allowed to show my vulnerabilties and ask for help. Sometimes, I am still scared too! Not sure how too?

I guess this is why some people go in and come out with the same issues, until they can see their own truths. When they are truly ready they will share honestly and openly. Afterall, a therapist just faciltates healing, we have to be ready for that process and until we feel truly ready and learn to trust in ourselves we may never trust them completely.

We all have to start somewhere even if it is not always successful!

Spirit x