Linasmom:

I agree with what you are saying, also. We do have to take responsibilty, but to get through the process, one needs a therapist they can share all their feelings with comfortably. I am drawn more to some personalities more than others. For me real aggressive therapists feel threatening, but somebody else may really like their style.

If I don't warm up to a therapist after 3 or 4 sessions then I know I might benefit more from a different therapist.