Shadowmedic:

My husband with through something similar to this. I have taken medication for the past 10 years, but my husband had not. He is no longer on medication, but at the time he went through a situation that he was taking more meds than me. One of the meds made him sleep. (I wish I could get more into it, but I don't feel comfortably posting my husband's story).

Long story short, I freaked. I was afraid that he was not going to be there if I needed him. He reassured me that he could still function in emergencies. So basically, it was not the fact he was on medication, but my own fears and mental illness that caused me to react selfishly.

His reassurance helped tremendously. I just needed to know that he was still there. This is probably all very scary for your wife. We know and she knows that you can get better, but for now the medication is validating her fear. Does that make sense?

Once you get out of moderation, I could PM you and tell you more if you wish. My husband would be more than happy for me to share his story with someone in the military if it would be helpful. I just don't feel comfortable posting it publicly.

Best wishes to you and your wife
Cecilia