Some people can't trust right away because when they were a child they trusted their abuser and that trust was broken. How does one get that trust back along with their innocence? Through hard work and patients with oneself and it doesn't happen over night. This is a long process that has to be taken in baby steps. Go ahead and judge something you may not know one inkling about. If it makes you mad or upsets you then you are judging and most likely stuck in judgment of everyone who doesn't think like you.

I was raised by criminals. They taught me to be a criminal so what do you think about criminals? You can't trust them! If I've known only criminals most of my life and became one, how quickly is it going to be for me to trust when I know even the nicest person with the best intentions won't have a bad day and do something that harms me? There is a possibility of a criminal in all of us but we refuse to see it because we are repressing those thoughts and actions. Don't think for one minute if you were on the streets starving to death you wouldn't steal some food. Have you ever went hungry for two and a half days (nothing but water)? I have, and it isn't a pleasant feeling. Actually it's pretty painful.

Lets be realistic here. You may think you trust your T and open completely up but about 15% of people are 100% honest with their T and I find it hard to believe the majority of this forum with the exception of 2quilt, tude and myself are the only ones that do not trust so easily.

Keep a mental note of this topic and next time your T or some one asks you a question you don't feel comfortable answering, ask yourself why? I bet it happens more often than you think because your not paying attention. Try this on for starters go and tell your T in the next session that you masturbated and you slept with some one you didn't know. Even better, tell them about the time you slapped your child in the face real hard because you lost control. If you can do this then I applaud your trust and openness. Good for you!

Peace
Tammy