Hodge, Wow - what a grueling series of challenges. You've weathered them and are working on what YOU need. Kudos to you. Many of us are still learning the process. Here is a prayer I carry in my Prayer Box on a chain around my neck - EVERY DAY. Make sure you read the end it has a new twist. I got this in the hospital.

Grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference. Grant me PATIENCE with the changes that take time,
an APPRECIATION of all that I have, TOLERANCE of those with different struggles and the STRENGTH to get up and try again, one day at a time.