I think you need to do whatever you feel comfortable with Sisu. It may have the desired response it may not. You just have to make sure you can live with whatever it is you decide to do.

Unfortunately what seems right and logical to you may not be the same for a PTSD suffer. I struggle to work it out and sometimes kick myself and think "if only" but then, I can't live my life walking on egg shells trying to keep someone else happy. They have a responsibility for their own happiness too.

As for other men saying you deserve better.... I say this to you....people tend to project themselves in situations so I am tempted to say these men actually feel inadequate in themselves and it has nothing to do with you. Something to think about? If a person doesn't think they are worthy of you they never will be while thinking that...that is their self confidence issue.

My thoughts are with you. I am reluctant to offer any advice and say to you that understanding PTSD can be pretty tough and sometimes it does really hurt.