Can you create a space for you to retreat to in the house, like your own special room?

I sometimes escape to the Public Library where it is quite. There is computer access, magazines, a place to write in my journal and be by myself - but out of my house, a different surrounding.

I had a friend who had an excellent escape in her yard. She got a gazebo and screened it in. Inside were candles, big pillows for lounging, lapboards so she could write, and a basket with snacks and bottled water. Whenever she needed to escape her teenagers she retreated to the gazebo - her private place. One night she even slept out there in a sleeping bag.

Some how you each need to create a private space to retreat to and be respected for your privacy. You need to set your boundaries and 'rules' when using these spaces.

I think it will work - but you have to communicate your needs to each other.

It is not easy but I think it is the only way it will work.