Cowgirl- this sounds so much like me I had to comment. I dance around things and drop hints when I do want to talk about things but can't figure out how, or I think I can finally talk about something and get part way there and realise it's too much. Often it results in a circular sort of conversation where I keep coming back to something interspersed with another topic, and each time there is a tiny bit more info. I'm sure for the other person it must appear like a puzzle. Sometimes though I need someone to gently ask, or guide the conversation once I start it. Or, just be open to a conversation that is quite meandering - knowing that changing the subject frequently might be necessary to avoid being overwhelmed.

I also find, that with PTSD what did happen is important, but your experience of what happened, or how you are experiencing or relating to it now is more important. So trying to sort out what 'actualy happened' may not be that important. Right now he thinks X happened, or feels X, or doesn't think X happened, that's is important and that's part of his experience.