You are so right blueyedgirl.....I am enabling his behavior because I so badly want him to feel better again. I am allowing him to ignore my calls, emails, cards, etc and yet I continue to try to tell him I am there for him. I am being a door-mat instead of a strong woman. I did send an email yesterday pointing out the fact that his communication style sucks and that if he and I were to even be friends that would have to change. I told him that I did not appreciate his lack of acknowledging my cards or calls. I didn't expect to hear from him, but I did. It took him 24 hours but he did thank me for the cards and calls. He also called himself a terrible person...which he is not. Why do they have such low self-esteem??

I am working on my letter. I will write and re-write to make sure that the words are exactly right and they are words that I can live with. And when I am ready...I will send it. I am not quite ready yet. Almost...

Thank you for your words. They were very helpful and insightful.
Sisu