Excellent advice Langdon. I couldn't have said it better myself.

You can't live his life for him, and if you don't balance out your energy and fight against your "wonderwoman" syndrome, your life as you know if will fall apart. It just will. And suddenly it will be you on the couch. Balance is power and health. But you have to keep working on it and this experience if you allow it, will make you more prepared with less heartache in the future.

I have realised how much I have grown and learnt this time round, the signs suddenly become luminous all over the walls. Difference this time is, I have knowledge and I know how to protect myself. I am not wonderwoman and nor do I want to be.