That is me always trying to be the carer...my last intimate relationships....I was always the one listening....mabe the next person can share more and I can let someone all the way in and not focus on their problems while trying to pretend I am so confident.....it always happen that I eventually fall apart. My past haunted me for years but I am a stuffer. It is hard to know when is too soon to open up......scared the last two off......one before that.....didn't know how to let him love me.