I would say that's verbal abuse and emotional abuse.

When my husband does something dumb, I call him "doodoo head" in front of children, or "dildo" when we are alone, but I am making fun of him and we are both laughing and tickling each other. Calling your partner something more cruel and doing the other stuff you mentioned sounds like he is going down the road of true physical abuse. If he did that to me I would be scared because he does not treat me with respect. I think his actions are warning signs.

Husband gets food on his clothes when he eats, so I say, with regularity,"First day with a new mouth?"
Some may say that's a put down. Nothing bad between us, but it might be for two other people.

Yesterday he got me mixed up with a woman he dated 14 years ago. He swore it was me he took to a anime festival. It really was some woman who does not look anything like me at all. So I teased him about his age and getting alzheimers and how typical of men to mix up women they have been with because we all look alike in the dark (grin), and oh by the way don't you ever call me by the wrong name, etc. I don't think we were harming our relationship.

We wrestle, but if he hurts me, and I say OUCH, he releases me instantly. Not doing so I would consider the begining of harm and controlling behavior.