Sisu

Regarding the lies he tells you when you ask him to go somewhere. I can answer that one for you. I spent years coming up with good lies. It is not that he wants to lie to you. He is terrified to tell you the truth. How does a grown man explain to his girl friend that he is scared to go. He literally, physically, emotionally and mentally can not make himself go with you. It is a fear in him. A very deep seated fear--of what you ask---even he does not know the answer to that question.

I can tell you from experience that when I would be asked to go someplace, I would break out in a cold seat, I would start to tremble inside and actually get nausous.

I know that I don't have to lie about this anymore and yet it is still hard to say, sorry I can't. Reason-----you are going to ask why! Try giving him space. Ask, invite and then when he gives you his lie, just say Ok, and don't take it personally. Hopefully he wil get to the point where he will feel comfortable just saying Sorry, I can't.

But the reason we lie is the truth is to hard to explain. So by not asking why not you will help him so very much.