Herc,
You are right. As I stated in another post in here...I tend to try to fix the problems I see and the way to fix a problem in someone with ptsd is to allow them to fix it. I keep wanting to see him, so I can talk to him and help him. But because he is not "there" yet and cannot talk to me about it, it forces him to lie to me. He cannot bear the truth....the fact that he cannot be around me right now.

I have no doubt about his love for me, but that is not always enough. As much as I can give him unconditional love, if he cannot see and accept it for what it is, it doesn't matter. His "walls of protection" are high and thick right now.

I do tease him that I see cracks in "his walls" and he says he is going to go and repair his walls with cement immediatley. We can still laugh and joke about this even though it is painful on the heart.

Sisu