In the beginning of our relationship I didn't really tell my husband much because I didn't understand what was going on myself. But he stuck with me as I figured it out (and still am figuring it out). Sometimes I worry a lot that he will resent me for not turning out to be the same woman he fell in love with but he says he loves me even more now that he knows everything about me. Its hard, but I have to trust him in that.

I ask him sometimes now how much he wants to hear before I unload. Other times I give him the option by using e-mail and putting a disclaimer ahead of the tough stuff. That way he doesn't have to read it until he is feeling up to it.

I try to gauge his stress levels too and not unload too much when I know that he is feeling down or depressed. But ultimately he has always wanted to hear everything I have to say and I can't think of anything that I couldn't tell him. We figure that the more we both know (since I'm just starting with the therapy there is a lot that I am learning about myself too) the better we can work at it together. He can handle me better and I can be stronger for him when he needs that.