I understand feeling the many identities within ourselves. I also grieve for the person I once was before knowing she will never return the same. As someone said on here, something snapped or got broken, and will always be that way.

Accepting that and looking at what is left and making something up from there is a piece of the recovery. Determining who you are now and what you can do for yourself and others is now the question. What is it you really want for yourself? We all have to choose despite where we came from or what you carry within. Picking a job, lifestyle, living arrangements all reflect our needs of who we are today.