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Originally Posted by Cowgirl  I'm going to give you the view from the outside of this. You can take it or leave it, of course.
Having sex is not a sign of maturity. Anyone who has gone through puberty can have sex. Anymore, that means that people 10, 11, 12 - and they are not mature by any stretch of the imagination.
Going on vacation is not a sign of maturity.
Maturity is about being independent and able to stand on your own two feet. Someone living with mom, whether 12, 17, or 53, is NOT mature.
Once you move out on your own, get your own place, and have a job with which you can support yourself and any child you might create, then you are, arguably, mature. Until that point, you are immature and simply think you are mature. |
My mom owns this house, I most of the caring for it. She leaves in the early am and is usually gone til late PM. It's pretty much my house, she isn't an involved parent anymore... Also, when I graduate in May I have a job lined up at a very reputable hotel/restaurant, which pays plenty to afford my own apartment and then some. I worked there before, I've only recently taken a break from working to focus on getting through the last 2 months of school because juggling both was driving me insane, especially with the hours of this place, and the type of school I go to.
So I'm sorry, I'm not your typical high schooler, I'm not a mooch whatsoever.
I may not be the most mature, and trust me I'm not, I f**k up a lot, but I'm much more mature than she gives me credit for.. Especially since she doesn't even know me anymore.
Also, just because she doesn't come over doesn't mean sex isn't happening, my mom knows I have sex so that's not the real reasoning...
Honestly if she doesn't want her sleeping her cuz we might have sex while she's here, then I'm cool with that, but I don't see why she can't just spend the night to get away from her environment (like I said she's got a lot of similar mental stuff as me)...