i've been with my partner for 10 years - due to a traumatic childhood and early adult life he was diagnosed before i met him with ptsd
he has never had counselling but over the last month he has agreed that this is what he needs but hasnt actually done anything about it
i take care of all things around the house (work, chores etc..) as any kind of stress seems to 'set it off' - i always try to check with myself before saying or doing anything but sometimes i mess up (ive seen many references to eggshells and can fully identify).
at the time of writing this he is the bedroom, having been holed up in there since sat am - i gave a flippant reply to his comment about the tv being on at 7.30 in the morning.
thats all it took - now all i am getting is one word answers and being told its my fault and look at what ive done to him
i love and care for him so much but really dont know what to do for the best
i apologised but was told that sorry wasnt good enough and that afer 10 years i should know what to do and what not

any help or advice please
i should mention that after looking at the various forum topics i realise that i am not taking care of myself half as well as i should be