Thanks Nicolette - before i sent in my message i spent quite a while reading other carers posts - i for a long time thought that all bad days were completely my fault.
My husband was an alcoholic when i met him - he gave up drinking about 4 years ago and in a way that has helped (no more angry rants at early hours of the morning) but the flip side is that not only is he dealing with the ptsd but also the loss of his security blanket (copious amounts of beer).
On the whole we have a good relationship, but he talks very rarely about his ptsd - i dont know if this is common ?
so instead of talking to me about it and helping me to guage when the stress levels are beginning to rise i have to try and make sure i remain happy, jolly, positive and upbeat all the time (not easy).
any suggestions would be appreciated - the mood today hasnt changed - ive managed to get him to eat something (food is another 'issue' - can go for days eating nothing) but still holed up in the other room
i asked earlier if he thought i was doing the right thing by leaving him on his own - the repsonse was that yet again he had to do all the thinking !?!and said that maybe i should go and stay with my parents
i am sure that i have read on other threads that this isnt a good idea and i have to say i dont want to leave
sorry to everyone if i appear to ramble - ive gone 10 years with this and for the first time ever can talk about it (friends dont seem to understand ptsd)