I agree - you all have a point. I think that he recognises he has ptsd but doesnt seem to take it any further than the stress levels. then when i do end up doing or saying something that triggers a response thats maybe why the reply is always
'see what stress does to me, see what you've done, you should know.......'and so on
the main problem at the mo i think is me. as soon as we get into this scenario i immediately start placating, running around, apologizing as much as poss for upsetting him and sit there and feel guilty for screwing up.
but, having read the replies so far i see that i maybe have to rethink my whole attitude
as at today nothing has changed, this has been since sat am (the longest spell before was for nearly 3 weeks) so i just sit and wait

as an aside on sun i popped out for the afternoon and left him a note saying i was sorry and that i had been going through a difficult time myself lately (i have had an op which now means at the age of 34 i have just stared hrt and will be on it till im 50 - early menopause not helping at the moment at all)
his reposnse to the note was just to say that he knew this (trigger) would happen, what with him as he is and me on hrt
i know that he was in a bad state but i came away feeling as though this is no walk in the park for me either but have ended up taking care and pussy footing around again
i dont think it helps that due to the op i have been signed off work until end of april so i am here wheras normally i dont see him till 6ish in the evening
im left creeping around the house not wanting to make any noise
do i carry on as normal ? bearing in mind particularly low as he is will this upset even more
sorry, im confused even more now - advice from anyone gratefull received