It appears that you two have been through a lot and I'm sorry to hear that your experiences in dealing with it haven't been positive.

I can't claim to know a whole lot but that therapist sounds like a joke. One of the first things mine did was ask me what I think would be most helpful for my husband to do during a rage. I think that there are good and bad therapists and you have to find one that can fit both of you.

And hey... everyone deserves support. You came here, didn't you? I think that right there says you understand a lot more than you did before. That said, welcome to the forum.