My husband's first wife shut him out and he hung around for another 3+- years before leaving her. He loved her and was hoping against hope that she would get better. He almost had a nervous breakdown.

If I were in that situation, my tolerance would have ended a hell of alot sooner than three years off my lifetime. But we are different people, and I am thinking hypothetically because i never lived that situation. I also know what kinds of things she did to my husband to abuse him and I don't like her.

My question is, do you still love each other? For me, and me alone, that would be my deciding question. People do alot of things in the name of love. I would stay with this husband I have until the end of time no matter what happens. I love him like no other person on earth. But he does not abuse me in any way. If he did, my ass would be gone in a heartbeat because that means, to me, that he did not love me. Because of my PTSD and history, I have a low tolerance for abusive people.

Do you consider being shut out of his life as a form of abuse? Will he go to therapy? Does he think he needs professional help? These questions may help you make decisions.