To me looking for sympathy doesn't exist. When tramatized as children many can relate to our parents or perpertrators not having sympathy for us. So why look for something we know little of? I think, we like to tell our stories to get it off our chests and feel good for the moment. Many of us have nobody to talk to or don't feel comfortable telling them our deep dark secrets. On a forum we can say these things without feeling awkward or looking someone in the eyes. We don't have to lie or make our stories more than they are. Some may have been through alot less than the next person but to them they have gone through the worst experience anyone can imagine and there are others who have gone through much worse than ourselves that don't see it as bad. We are all individuals who perceive our pain in our own minds, no 2 are alike.

I seem to stay in the child mold more than accepting things as an adult. However, due to my overcaring nature of people, I hurt for them more than I do for myself. I do not like seeing people in pain but ignore my own many times. I enjoy helping others but usually get hurt for caring to much. Maybe, this is my way of forgetting my own problems for the time being. My mom use to always say, I was over-emotional. Yet, no help was given me when I went through my abuses or understanding due to my going through abuse and her kind of knowing about it but turned her head. Alcohol was too important for her more so than her 7 children. We have all survived in different ways but all very much dysfuntional. We are the ones paying the price not the perpetrators. Thank you Anthony for this forum!
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