Thread: When Does It Become *more* Than A Shut-out?
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Old 03-04-2008, 07:06 PM
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Originally Posted by sisu View Post
What about the ptsd crisis....with respect to the sufferer and the carer....how should one proceed? Tough love with no excuses for poor behavior? Or give them slack during a crisis?
Sisu, I think you need to decide whether there is a crisis and then what is it before you can even start to decide how much slack to give. 2quilt also raised some interesting and quite relevant questions which you could ask yourself also.

For me, if I knew what was going on and why the communication had ceased (whether it was truly PTSD issues or just a lack of interest) it would sway my decision. Then, I would do as 2quilt said, and assess the situation in relation to what mattered to me. While I believe in love, it can be somewhat one-sided in relationships where one person is more in love than the other...something else I would have to try to honestly ask myself.

2quilt mentioned her husband waiting for 3 years - there is no way I would do that. 9 weeks, well, unless there was a really good reason, I would tend to think the relationship had no potential and was over.
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