I think empathy and sympathy are being confused here. Empathy is fine and I think that is what Anthony stated and I haven't noticed either of you seeking sympathy, but empathy.

If you want sympathy I think he said it is OK once in awhile but if it's ongoing then one stays stuck and doesn't move forward in their healing.

Personally, I think sympathy-seeking keeps me in "victim mode" I refuse to be there. Empathy is understanding me and giving advice and that helps me move forward.

My 2 cents
Tammy