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Originally Posted by 2quilt  Above all else, Sisu, I think that you are doing the right thing in your situation to ask the opinions of others to get a better idea what other folks would do in your shoes.
What I really enjoy about this forum is that everyone has an opinion, and it helps me to make decisions when I hear the views of others here. Many times in my life I can only see one way to solve a problem, and the people on this forum, and outside in real life, have opened up my mind to the various possibilities out there. |
I totally agree with the post by 2quilt. It is nice to get a variety of opinions to this. Since I do not have ptsd and it is all new to me, I am just trying to soak up as much as I can. Learn, understand, empathize, etc. I will (hopefully) never know what it actually feels like to have ptsd. But with as much knowledge about it as I can get, I feel like I will be ready and strong if I am with the ex again or if I meet someone else in that situation.
Anyway, as you know I ended it with my boyfriend. I know he has lots of work to do on himself before he is ready for me. He knows that too and hopefully is working on himself. I did feel like if I didn't totally end things I was allowing my love to be a "safe landing" and he would never seek out the help he needs. Meds alone is not the answer. He was diagnosed 4 years ago and has not done much else besides meds. It is so hard to step back and watch someone you love struggle like that. But in the end, it is something that they have to face. I allowed the *shut out* for a long time (9 weeks).
At some point I have to repect myself and move forward in my own life.
We had 8 beautiful months.....the best I have ever had with a man. I love him dearly and always will. I feel like he is the missing piece to my puzzle...he is a part of me. But, now is not the time for us. Maybe someday.
Sisu