Cowgirl,

If you think I have a ton of work to do.....You should have been around 20 yrs ago. You would have been scared shitless of me back then. I have come so far in my healing compared to what I was like. Don't ever doubt that.


I will state this again. None of you can ever possibly know how we feel and what we go through. So that point is pointless IMHO!!!!! Unless you have PTSD you couldn't possibly understand, or even come close to understanding.

I agree PTSD is NO EXCUSE for bad behavior. But it also depends on what behavior we are talking about. Pulling away, retreating, shutting down are survival modes for all involved. IMO!!!!

Screaming, calling names, not making compromises, throwing temper tantrums, ect are bad behavior and shouldn't be tolerated.

Time constraints on healing just is stupid as far as I am concerned. It's like telling someone with cancer that they only have 9 weeks to get better. Doesn't happen people. When stress hits, and we become overwhelmed with everything, getting dressed can be a major issue for us. Then try to have a relationship and participate...Not going to happen if the person can't deal.

This is difficult, and very frustrating for all of you carers. I understand, but you also can't and never will be able to understand what we go through.

I applaud all of you for trying, but you can never fully understand .....