Awakening...perhaps my wording was too strong. What I personally might find harmful are the parts where you would say "You will never begin to heal unless", or "can't versus won't" etc. and while the belief behind the words may be true, it would just be the language. It is quite possible that I can't do something versus won't but you are judging that I am choosing not too when I may be unable to. But since you don't know me, you wouldn't know phrasing in such ways would be hurtful and I would do as I have done since joining the forum...just let it pass on by without taking offense. As I stated, it is me personally that would have a hard time with this kind of terminology while others would find it highly helpful. I try to be very, very careful in how I word things to others but I wasn't so careful in my response to you and I apologize.