Well I am a carer. My point was.. in case in got missed in all that.. that if you are not prepared for shut ins.. don't be in the relationship.. ( I do realize that not all carers have the slightest clue when beginning a relationship, however once they know it becomes their choice.) and that the time for exploring this boundary is NOT while a sufferer is in the shut in!

No where did I see any question on HOW to deal with them.. if that is a question I will be more than happy to share what I know works.. from both perspectives.

And yes, it is about the symptoms when such heavily emotionally worded judgment words, like bad behavior and abuse are constantly being thrown about.

Did I better clarify my point?

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