LOL, but isn't that what we all do? I mean really, next to knowledge is our experiences and beliefs... I think justifiable is always entangled with acceptance and toleration. We are human!

So.. my first addition to this is rages.

Are rages justifiable?

Well, they are a well known symptom of PTSD. However, they can be the most damaging and the one that most easily crosses a line into abuse. So I think this is the most dangerous one (physically that is.)

I don't think they are so much justifiable, as they are understandable.. at first. I think that some hard lines need to be drawn here. Getting hit by fists or objects, or screamed nasty names is just not right.

So I think with this.. a good talk about boundary settings with this aspect is worked on is imperative. A safe room for the person to go and wack pillows or something, away from everyone else.. for exampe.

If they are hitting you. Leave now. Talk later. If they won't even consider working on this. Leave now. Don't bother talking. If they are willing to work on this.. set up safety boundaries, where it's very clearly understood what is and isn't acceptable, and how the sufferer can release this (punching bag, pillows..) while working on it is a definite. The carer needs to stick to the boundaries.. and so does the sufferer! Have a clear plan for how to work on this (medications and therapy, anger management, exercise.. etc.)

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