Thread: Debate Are The Sufferers' Actions Justifiable In Accordance With Their Illness?
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Old 06-04-2008, 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by linasmom View Post
I would not expect my boyfriend of 6 months, who does not live with me, to excuse a "shut out" of weeks or more.

However, I do expect my husband to, if that should ever happen (and it could!). Why? Because he made a commitment to me when we married and he knew before we wed that I had PTSD.
I beg to differ. Anthony has had my commitment since early on into our relationship. When he told me about his PTSD and I didn't run the other way, I made a non verbal commitment to accept his illness. It way my choice at that time to leave or stay as it has been going forward. I consider Anthony my partner as he does me. We make plans for the future and will marry one day but that is not high on the list of priorities right now with so many other things going on. Does that mean we are not committed as we have not taken any formal vows - I don't think so.

Personally, I do not believe that a wedding ring means I should put up with more than I do without one. If I am in a relationship I am committed full stop. It does not change.
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