But that brings back the point if one is willing to commit but doesn't know if the other is committed to them or not. It goes back to the communication thing again I believe.. the one who is unsure of the situation and is getting hurt.. its most likely because they are unsure because there was / is no talk before hand or during this time of the issues that have come up that they are left to deal with not knowing exactly where they stand in the others point of view regarding the relationship so are unsure how to react or think.