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Originally Posted by Damiea  communication is the key to everything.. no matter if it is something like a shut out or any other action. If say the sufferer KNOWS they are shutting out the carer and KNOWS it is hurting the carer yet does NOTHING not even a message saying they are ok and still love the carer every now and then .. and the carer KNOWS the sufferer KNOWS what they are doing is hurting the carer.. that is where I believe a boundary is crossed over to uncaring and causes action to be taken. |
Exactly.
That's what I couldn't accept about my past relationship and was so unhappy about, and that's why I decided to break up.
I'm quite patient, and as I'm an independant person myself I could understand that my ex needed time for himself, to think and make his thoughts clear.
But it was too hard not getting any sort of explanation after the shut outs.
I felt alone, didn't understand what happened and I had this painful feeling that we simply were unable to communicate.
This lack of communication was obvious to me, but the thing is it wasn't the case for him, he just didn't realise it hurt me.