To all:

My initial reaction to all posts involving this topic in both threads was to totally agree with Anthony. I still do. I see the other points by others about needing a little sympathy here and there, that's OK in my book. But I got it clearly, the reference was to repeat offenders, not occasional posts.

I have not seen other forums so do not have anything to compare with, but this is my place. It is what I have always desired on my journey to have others understand my struggles and share their experiences to enlighten my own.

I have to also say, the initial post did make me evaluate my posts and consider if they were sympathetic or empathetic. I think I tend to always empathize.

I also want to add, I am very sensitive on this topic because my daughter has accused me often of seeking sympathy and stated to just move on with my life. She does not understand or choose to understand what it is like to live this way. So, I immediately react to being called a sympathy seeker. It is defensive on my part; mixed in with the lack of validation.

I also want to recognize the tension I have been observing as very disturbing. I do not handle conflict well. I know this and try not to jump in and fix everything. Sometimes I think we all need to agree to disagree. Not everything on a public forum will be about us because there is a wide variety of people and their experiences. Personally, I respond to threads that I have positive input for and that touch me personally in my own path.

I also often reflect on contributers to this site as we are all doing the best we can on any given day. Obviously, some days are better than others. The opportunity to share with each other is a gift I will never be able to repay for the worth I have of the friends and support I feel when reading and contributing.