Odd to answer my own thread, but I've recently found something that helps a lot, and so I share it for whatever it is worth to other carers. When I sense the anger ramping up, building up, simmering, etc. I just directly ask him not to go there, not to launch a rage. And, he's stopped. And we can redirect more easily. If I call attention to what I sense in him before it builds into something that is more difficult to control, then HE can look at it more rationally. It is helping much more than the redirecting without explaining WHY I was redirecting, which was my typical pattern before. Simple solutions are often the best, and the least obvious to ME! LOL! :)