Well said Cindy.... your observation is absolutely accurate. This is about bringing wide spread sympathy giving, wanting, into check so that it is only apparent for what it should be used for..... small and limited scope. Death usually warrants sympathy.... enduring trauma at that exact time, often warrants sympathy, neither though require ongoing sympathy because an event happened, instead it now becomes a hinderance to the brain and emotional ability of a person if allowed to be ongoing for any traumatic event within life. Near every person here has "past" trauma, that means sympathy is not required here unless something traumatic occurs to you whilst here, being the day or day around an event. It doesn't keep going for a week, two or a month.... its not healthy to want it or be given it for those durations. Once it is given sympathy has completed its natural course. Everything after that you need to begin resolution, action, doing stages.... the sympathy stage is completed and done.

People continue it because it is a stage of trauma that brings attention in a way a person can be awarded to feel sorry for themselves, as though they are all hard done by over and over. Not the case. Every human endures trauma in life, you cannot get over it, but you cannot get past it or through it if you continue the sympathetic stage of trauma beyond the event itself / day or two afterwards.

Very well said Cindy....