Welcome to the forum hinewai.

There is a great carer section here, that I suggest you visit. Two big things. A) take care of yourself first. Always. Your not helping yourself or him by neglecting you. B) Read and learn everything you can about PTSD.

Aside from those, my ex is also in prison for the same charges. We were engaged also. It is a rough road indeed. We are still in close contact, however I walked to sort my stuff out. The stress and the social isolation is ... well really there are no words for it. Anyways, I just wanted you to know there are others that have experienced similar circumstances. I am here to chat if you desire to.

bec