I agree with everything stated. But here is another point to be made.

I recieved a lot of secondary wounding from my siblings, mother, and daughter. I realized one day for my siblings and mother to admit my PTSD exists and the abuse happened they would have to accept part of the responsibility for the abuse by not seeing it and stopping it.

I think their secondary wounding in part is their denial that they had any part in the process of the abuse. For them it becomes self preservation of their ego's. Their intent is selfish and self serving, not to help me (what else is new).

I have long ago cut them out of the loop about my PTSD and how I handle it because of their refusal to accept it's existence and try to understand it. If a person does not try to educate themselves to help you then why keep hitting yourself over the head with their condescending remarks that are so hurtful. Your either with me or against me.

This has affected these relationships but not destroyed them. I just expect much less of family, it's sad. I never really felt part of them anyway.